How does one make relationships work? how can one guarantee that everything will turn out fine in the end? can anyone be sure that everything will work out? if one is always sure then is it a good thing or bad?
Recently one of my friends and his girl friend broke up. They parted ways with the words "its not your fault, its both our faults. we both have changed now"! She found someone else I guess. But come onnnn. I do not believe for once that people change in these kinds of things. I mean yeah I will definitely change in a few years as in I could start liking japanese food, or I will start hating Robert De Niro cause enough is enough. But how can I start not loving a person I loved so very much! With whom I dreamt of spending my life together and make babies with. How is that possible. Maybe I am too much in love right now to understand how that might be happening. But still I dont get it how it could happen. If anything does happen, I will feel betrayed and broken and devastated and washed out ! I must admit that I am not a strong person, if that qualifies as a quality for being a person, and I dont think I will hide behind the sheath of strength of character. I will cry and feel like shit and curse her. I dont think there is anything wrong with that. But coming back to the topic of this post, i.e. parting ways the british-india style "not anyones mistake" etc. etc. horse poo, i think is ridiculous and completely unnatural. If you can handle the break up like a matured person that means you didnt have the innocence of the child to believe in something in the first place. And if you didnt believe in something right from the start then maybe it wasnt supposed to happen anyways.
My girlfriend and I dont get any further than second base. I dont see anything wrong with the fact that she doesnt. But what bothers me is that she might be thinking that she is saving herself for mr.right. That makes me wonder, here I am deeply madly in love with this girl and she is thinking that this might not work out and I should play my cards right. I know she loves me, but here again she might lack the childs innocence of believing in something without a shred of doubt. I want her to believe. Please let her believe. Not that I badly want to get to second base or something, not that I dont want to either, but the knowledge that if I want to, its there for me is very reassuring. If she just tells me that I want to (i know she wants to) but I cannot let you do that because I wont before we get married, it will relax. Otherwise be respectful and tell me truthfully that she doesnt think as yet that I am important enough to sacrifice her her virginity on.
